Thursday, July 28, 2011

Perv

*Trigger alert*


And some space for you to leave if necessary.

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Okay then.




Incident on the train today resulted in me pressing the call button "There's a guy masturbating. His penis is out." And then repeating the message for the conductor.

Disgusting. Terrible. Sickening.

My takeaways:
  • Always make sure there are MULTIPLE people on your train car. Even in the middle of the day. Even when the doors to the train car are still open.
  • Sit near the call button. Use it when necessary. People will respond.
  • My response was a valid one. It addressed the situation (if I'd just left, he'd get away with it). But it didn't require me to engage directly with him.
  • That rush of adrenaline will eventually make me shaky.
  • I can think of friends who I can go to when I need to debrief. (Even when I know people are out of town. And others have moved. And others I'm not close enough to yet. The person I needed was home.)
  • I am grateful to live in a place where this is NOT acceptable. It is NOT something that should be normal. And here it is not.
I'll be okay tomorrow. Tonight I'm still shaken and letting it affect my actions. It ruined my dancing mood. At the restaurant we went for dessert I waited for the women's bathroom to be unlocked rather than use the men's to wash my hands. (Even after my friend, who had just gotten out of there told me I should use it.) Normally, no hesitation. But for tonight, I'll let myself be extra wary.

2 comments:

friend said...

Brady (Comment on one post older): "What??? Oh my goodness! Good for you - you handled it just right. Were you along in the train car with him? Or were you just making that note because it's a good thing you WEREN'T? "


The former. One of those moments where I hadn't even realized it until....too late. But I'll be more aware now.

mm who still can't believe it. was he drunk? said...

ugh ugh ugh. but good for you for doing something about it! wish i could erase it from your brain though and very sad that it affected the rest of your day. :( hope it NEVER happens again.